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I was defined from a young age as dramatic, an exaggerator and story teller so much so that I accepted that definition of myself.
I believed that I exaggerated ~ and believed this definition of me was proof that I was the one in the wrong and thus the beginning of the Black Sheep Syndrome.
There were things said all along about me by my family that discredited me long before I ever exposed any of the truth about what had been going on in my childhood.
From a very young age I was defined as a story teller and an exaggerator.
This definition of me will protect the perpetrators of abuse from having the spotlight of truth shone on them.
When I looked at it through this grid of understanding, it’s easy to conclude that not only is there a twofold result when this happens but there there is also a twofold motive in conditioning and defining a child in this way. Seeing the whole thing through that grid of both WHY and HOW children are used as scapegoats, labeled as “the problem” and defined as depressed, story tellers, in need of medication, difficult and “always that way” made it easier for me to understand how I willingly stopped fighting their warped definition of me and accepted it for all those years.
I hear it used in the sentence “well he always was the black sheep of the family” and I hear it used in the first person such as “well I am the black sheep of my family.” This week I have been thinking about HOW a child becomes “the black sheep of the family” in the first place.
The black sheep may be the one that rebels against the family system or the black sheep is also used to describe the one who “doesn’t fit in” with the family.
I tried for most of my young years to comply but even that didn’t keep me safe and the feeling that I was “not loved” was always lingering close by.This 197 page, downloadable, printable, live linked e-book will put you on the fast track to healing.Get yours here in the upper right side bar or click this link~ Emerging from Broken The Beginning of Hope for Emotional Healing I love your insights in this article Darlene, there is so much I can relate to.The reasons for the fact that I was withdrawn were never addressed but rather this information was used against me as the proof that something was “wrong” with me.And all this was done long before I ever rebelled or disclosed any of the dysfunction going on in my family.